It’s ALWAYS painful to lose a partner in life and it is understandable that there will be times when you feel that you cannot move on… but you must. If you’re in this situation right now then do read on for tips on how you can slowly – but surely - get on with your life.

Say goodbye properly.

Most people deal with extreme sadness by either pretending it does not exist or by wallowing in it every day. Both can be detrimental to your well-being.

If you’re ignoring grief, you’re not getting rid of it. You’re just delaying it. And trust me, when that grief finds its way to you it will feel like a blow to your gut.

On the other hand, people who wallow in sadness are also damaging themselves. Again, instead of dealing with it, a person doing this is simple surrendering to the pain and misery.

So the best way to deal with losing someone is to really say goodbye the best way you know how. This can be done by spending a solemn day at the cemetery where you pour out your heart and soul. It can also be in the form of a get-together, a sort of bon voyage if you will, that will serve to commemorate the life of your loved one.

Memorialize the relationship.

There are plenty of ways you can memorialize your relationship. For instance, you can get a tattoo on your body or create a foundation in your partner’s name. If you have kids, it sometimes helps if a small room is dedicated to the belongings of your spouse so that your children can grow up still feeling his/her presence in their lives.

Day-to-day dealing with the loss.

The pain of losing a loved one does not just go away and for most of us, we need ways to deal with the loss on a daily basis until such a time when we can cope with life. Ask yourself what it is that will help you one day at a time. Here are some ideas: writing on a journal, visiting the church/cemetery, getting a pet, and so on.

LIVE.

Time does not stand still; life goes on. As each day passes, make LIVING your goal and not just existing. Think of how much your life was made better and happier by having shared it with him/her for whatever time you’ve had because the age old adage is true you know… it’s better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.

CT Style: Funeral Pre-Planning (Funeral Pre Need) - Howard K. Hill

Cremation is the thermal process wherein the help of heat, flames, and vaporization is taken to reduce the body into its basic elements like bone fragments. Crematories provide the necessary arrangements required for the cremation. A cremator is basically a furnace in which very high temperatures are generated to disintegrate the corpse.

The choice ultimately lies with an individual. To be buried or cremated is based on one’s view on religion, culture or just for personal reasons. But a few known reasons are highlighted below for both options:

Why people choose cremation:

1) Cremation seems to be a very personal approach. Most people do not like the idea of slow decomposition in case of burial. Cremation ensures rapid disposal of remains.

2) People tend to find cremation attractive as it eases the funeral processes. They view burial as an unnecessary and time-consuming procedure, where cremation simplifies matters.

3) Cremation also tends to be cheaper than the traditional burial process if direct and simple cremation is carried out rather than obtaining multiple crematory services and going for fancy urns.

4) People also prefer cremation as it is environment-friendly in the context of space. Traditional burial takes up a lot of cemetery space. Countries like Japan and Europe have started to run out of cemetery capacity as the numbers of caskets are increasing day by day.

5) The remains of the cremation offer various options as to the method of disposal. The remains can be given to the family members, entombed in a mausoleum, buried in the ground or scattered in the sea or any place preferred by the family.

6) Traditions and customs also determine the decision making of the method of funeral.

7) Many people hold this belief that a cremated person readily becomes an element of Mother Nature while a buried body takes years to decompose.

Some people also debate over the leaps made by scientific technology. They want to safeguard their DNA to prevent anyone from obtruding their privacy after death and making their clones.

Why people choose burial:

1) The idea of burning in a furnace, or otherwise, is repulsive to some people even after death.

2) Many religions like Islam, Judaism and Zoroastrianism prohibit cremation as this way is considered insulting and disgraceful to a dead body.

3) Most people do not want their loved ones to become unreachable. They prefer to have them buried as they can visit their dead at any time and pay due respect.

4) Burial dignifies and honors the body as a permanent memorial can be erected to keep the memory of the person everlasting.

5) Burial provides a safe resting place to a body through eternities. This thought gives solace to the loved one’s family.

No matter what method is chosen, death is after all, a grim and ruthless certainty and a merciless reality which everyone has to face. Whatever it comes down to it is better to be prepared and make decisions beforehand. Family members should be informed of the person’s preference between cremation and burial, so that wishes of the dead can be complied with.